Topic: How Far is Too Far?
Fun Stuff: A "Top 5" List and Wii's Just Dance
Attendance: 9 First Time Visitors
Bible Verses: 1 Corinthians 6:18 - 20 and 10:24
Main Thought: "How Far is Too Far" is the wrong question. A better thing to ask is "What honors God and what honors the other person."
Night Review: We started our "You Pick" series tonight. We gave our teenagers the opportunity to vote online and pick the next 3 weeks worth of topics. "How Far is Too Far" was the top vote getter, so we started out with this one. I tried to convey the idea that if I were to draw a "line" and let kids know that "Well, touching below the belt is too far" or "Passionately kissing is too far" or "Holding hands is too far" ... our natural tendency as people (with sinful natures) is to see how close to the line we can get. If touching below the belt is too far, then how close to the belt can I get? If passionately kissing is too far, then what is passionate for you may not be passionate for me. If holding hands is too far, then you're just plain crazy!
I talked about what dating is about. Dating is about honoring the other person. Will they be better because they spent time with us. Dating is not something we do because we feel like we need a guy or girl. It's not something to do to get our physical needs met. It's an opportunity to honor another person and hopefully see them become better for having spent time with us. 1 Corinthians 10:24 is a good principle to apply to dating.
Dating is also about honoring God. 1 Corinthians 6:18 - 20 are very good principles to apply to our dating lives. So, we are to honor the other person and honor God in dating AND in a physical relationship. I tried to describe what that looks like by telling our kids to imagine a 3rd person on a date with them ... someone they didn't know what there, but their role was to take pictures of you and your date the entire night and then show them to your dates parents at the end of the evening. If there was ANY picture that you would be ashamed of or ANY picture you would not want your date's parents to see, then you didn't honor God and you didn't honor the other person.
Physically, the further we go or the longer we kiss or rub or whatever it may be, our bodies are NOT preparing to stop. They are preparing to GO! That's God's design. But, to honor God and the other person, we need to first live within the clear boudaries God has set up for us (1 Corinthians 6:18 - 20) and keep ourselves from being prepared to "go."
Next Week: How to Beat Temptation